Couples Counselling
Life is a journey and which involves growth in ourselves and also with our partner.
That is the ideal scenario. But often, we feel stuck in our relationship, and it is tricky to release the frozen patterns. It would seem easier, despite all the financial difficulties and the hassle, to separate. But wouldn't the same patterns arise again, if we go into a new relationship? Is there something we can learn? Can we find true intimacy?
This is the goal in my couples counselling: getting beyond what doesn't work to finding the love that was there at the beginning and communicate from that spot.
I am training with Terry Real, who invented Relational Life Therapy. The difference between the RLT approach and other approaches to couples' counselling, is that in RLT the therapist also is bringing their relationship into the therapy, does their own work in their relationship. It also is less neutral: if one of the partners is more 'blatant', then more work will be done with that partner. It is about finding the pain, joining through the truth, identifying losing strategies and learning winning strategies. There is a fair bit of learning to see in a different way.
If you like to read, I recommend Terry Real's book: The New Rules of Marriage. What you need to know to make love work.
That is the ideal scenario. But often, we feel stuck in our relationship, and it is tricky to release the frozen patterns. It would seem easier, despite all the financial difficulties and the hassle, to separate. But wouldn't the same patterns arise again, if we go into a new relationship? Is there something we can learn? Can we find true intimacy?
This is the goal in my couples counselling: getting beyond what doesn't work to finding the love that was there at the beginning and communicate from that spot.
I am training with Terry Real, who invented Relational Life Therapy. The difference between the RLT approach and other approaches to couples' counselling, is that in RLT the therapist also is bringing their relationship into the therapy, does their own work in their relationship. It also is less neutral: if one of the partners is more 'blatant', then more work will be done with that partner. It is about finding the pain, joining through the truth, identifying losing strategies and learning winning strategies. There is a fair bit of learning to see in a different way.
If you like to read, I recommend Terry Real's book: The New Rules of Marriage. What you need to know to make love work.